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Unhelpul Learning

When we read a quote from another, what happens? We see and recognise value and sensibility and perhaps usefulness, but then what?

Usually nothing, and quite a lot. Neither of which are helpful. Nothing in terms of how that recognition of sensibility translates into *Application.* The wisdom of what we’ve encountered is understood, but it doesn’t typically become part of our lives. If it did, we’d all be saints and Buddhas by now with all the wisdom memes we see everyday. They have little impact, regardless of how wonderful they are to us when we read them. Why is this?

It’s because we are easily fooled by our surface mind. We believe that recognising and realising some point of wisdom or insight is enough. We’ve seen, we recognised, and thus, we believe, now we know it. but we don’t really. We have come to believe in memory-knowledge, which of course, as we know so well, is pretty ineffective.

This is the much which happens. Our brain is all active in connection to memory and recognition and the beliefs and self-congratulations and other surface mind stuff which feeds the convenient belief that merely *reading* wisdom quotes is enough to make us also wise and sensible. We are invested in this myth, because it’s handy relative to energy expenditure. It perpetrates the belief that extra effort is not needed. We always go for the least energy intensive solutions first. unfortunately those are not always the most sensible.

Longer-Term Self-Change

Problem is, we forget to look at matters from an Overview Perspective, so fail to see while the energy-management side was good, in the long-term this approach to Self-Change is not working all that well. Makes us temporarily feel good, but the actual effects are minimal. We are not much different to the self of a million memes ago.

So now what. What’s the remedy?

The key is Learning to Think For Ourselves. *WE* need to be the source of our own wisdom. Yes, we learn from others, but, if we do not Make the Wisdom our own, it of course can never be ours, and will not make much difference in our lives. This is a *Critical* Understanding

We can make that wisdom our own in a variety of ways, one way is through connecting to the full and deep Capital U Understanding of the Learning. We can magnify this process by learning to quote ourselves. but, there’s much more to this than seems at first.

To start, the value absolutely is not connected to any ego or self-promotional aspects. It’s all about how we Train our Brain. We actually need to be ego-less for this to work. 🙂 Because we can’t just go around quoting ourselves and thinking that whatever we say is good and sensible. That’s the narcissist way, not ours.

Inner Sobriety

As honest, earnest, good and sensible people, in order to quote ourselves we have to have something quote-worthy to say. Here’s where we start to come to the value of self-quoting. To connect to that inner Value and Sensibility and even wisdom we actually have to think about what we stand for. Feel and connect to what’s important and meaningful to us. We have to have a thorough Understanding of what’s going on inside the self, what *IS* us, in order to quote ourselves. And that’s just the start.

When we actually come to making a quote and we write out the thought, at first it comes out just ordinary, or maybe even clumsy. Or long and convoluted. So we refine it. Here the quote part comes into play. What makes a good quote?

Good quotes have a style and format to them. It’s not immediately obvious what exactly goes into it. But we can recognise when it’s *not* there. Good quotes have an economy of expression, as well as being fluid, smooth, easily readable, memorable, or easy to remember and grasp. They are also, most importantly, usually self-evident. This is the magic of insight, which is Discernment, Awareness, and Understanding expressed in this particular way. We’re not asking our deeper self to believe what we say just because we say it’s so. No, never, a good quote proves itself via self-evident obviousness and connecting to general life-experience and sensibility.

But to get to that point of expression takes a little doing. We have to fully and thoroughly Understand what we are putting into our quote. It’s also not a point of purely personal perspective or what’s happening now, but a general overall perspective and insight. A Life-Truth, as it’s those with which we build a lasting solid Self able to be Appropriate in any circumstance. As such there’s a way to express that. For instance, here’s a quote/post which illustrates the difference:

Thankful for the privilege to work, and lift people out of anguish.

This is a personal statement of what matters to the individual, but it’s not a quote as is. Thus it’s a statement more applicable to the now, as opposed to something which is a lasting understanding, insight, discernment and awareness. What’s the difference? Well a lot actually, it’s very much in how we express our point. Quotes with lasting value pack much more than what they say directly into them. We can think of these quotes as Self-Telling-Stories.

Good quotes are like seeds, when we plant them in mind they grow and connect us to that More we have packed into them and condensed into their excellence.

Taking the above personal statement and making a quote out of it could go something like this:

“The privilege to work and lift people out of anguish is something to be thankful for.” – Now it’s a more general statement, not one of purely personal perspective, but in general. What’s happened internally? To put out that quote as our own, we have to feel really sure that this is in fact so, that it’s a general truth rather than a purely personal one. Inside the brain, this is a massive shift. To put something “out there” as our own, we have to be sure it’s true and good and accurate and so on. This is because we are doing so as good, honest, earnest, genuine people, and not for, ugh, ego reasons.

Commitment of Self

When we put something like this out, something we thus will stand behind, it’s massively different psychologically, as it’s an expression of our deep self, compared to simply making a statement of were we are at in the moment. Expressions of the moment are not statements which contain any commitment. It’s just how we’re feeling at present, not necessarily something we stand by as a general truth or insight or wisdom. Big difference.

But the Value doesn’t end there. When we make a quote we are focusing intensely on getting our Understanding to be a general *truth*, not an opinion, and we are immersed and Emphasising all of our being on this. A process which because of the intensity and the particular use of energy, is one which Trains the Brain, connecting it to the Deep and lasting Value of our quote. We have to fully *OWN* the truth we are putting out there. We can’t put it out as a quote if it’s not fully true, if we don’t own it. Thus the very *process* of making the quote makes the truth, sensibility or wisdom involved a deep part of us. Really and truly part of us, not just in memory, which means nothing at all.

We also learn to express ourselves in this different way, which is a condensed, compacted, compression of what we know, and also, with some fluidity, and hopefully, maybe some grace of expression, to make it more memorable. Good quotes are good quotes because they are *easy* to quote, hence the name. This we want *For Ourselves,* as it allows what we have put into our quote to stick inside the self.

Deeper Meanings and Benefits

Let’s see what we can do with the quote we’re working on: “The privilege to work and lift people out of anguish is something to be thankful for.” This is still a bit unfluid, and has that word something in it, not too fluid. Also, there’s a lot more going on in this quote than it says right now. It’s assuming something, but a good quote usually avoids that. The quote assumes the particular work is connected to lifting people out of anguish. it may or may not. So we are talking about a particular type of work. To make our quote more potent, we have to make this clear.

But see also what’s happening with our thinking. By fine-tuning our statement to make it a quote, we are getting right inside this, which is connecting us to More. Which here, if we understand the deeper implications of the original personal statement, is that *finding* or creating work which lifts people out of anguish is actually important to this person, and is something they see as extremely significant and profound. So let’s see if we can state this in our quote:

“Having work which lifts people out of anguish is not only something to be thankful for, but also deeply fulfilling.” Still clumsy, but we’re getting closer to that deeper more connected meaning. Like maybe we’re trying to tell ourselves something about what’s important to us.

“Lifting others out of anguish as a life-path through work connects us to constant gratitude.”  – There, now our quote has that deeper connection to what’s significant about this in a larger sense, the deeper Value involved. Which here, by implication, is the constant connection to Gratitude or Appreciation. That’s *huge* as part of our Way-of-Being and Way-of-Living.

The quote can be worked on more, but since the original feeling and connection to the sentiment is not our own, it lacks that personal energy, which is a major part of quoting ourselves, the connecting to that inner deep feeling which is the core importance of the matter we are expressing. Also, it’s a useful and fun exercise to take such quotes and re-express them in more quotable ways. Connects us to deeper Understanding of what’s involved and further Trains the Brain to think in this way, which is really, Thinking For Ourselves!

Developing the ability to quote our Selves, to be our own authority, is imperative for developing that essential Way-of-Living, that magic, which is Independence-of-Being.


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