[8:22:40 AM] Biella: I’m keen to reiterate and elaborate on a point I’ve made, regarding those dream tsunamis and Awareness, and their representations as tsunamis of potential calamity via overwhelm. Not actual ofc. 🙂 :D.
Awareness is a peculiar thing in the sense that more is better. Sadly the idea that more is better in everything is massively corrupting. Haha, one simply has to apply it to butter. But I digress. With Awareness more is better, but it’s also consequential. It’s better in the Overall and long-term and in the contexts of our entire lives. It’s very very dependent on what our goals, motivations and predilections are. And… it’s dependent on our beliefs.
[8:25:30 AM] Biella: What we strive for, aim for, are content with, and are happy to accept, all make a very significant difference to how much Awareness we come to accumulate. How precisely our Awareness is, and what we are aware of, is not always shaped, affected, and influenced by ourselves. But it can be, depends on those goals and motivations and aspirations.
[8:28:26 AM] Biella: Those do not always directly impact Awareness, such as the goal to know more would, or the goal to Understand life, or such like. They can also have indirect ways of affecting Awareness. Such as the goal and desire for safety and security. If someone has found themselves in potentially perilous circumstances where their safety and security depended on them being alert and observant, then there will be a corresponding increase or addition to their Awareness.
[8:34:44 AM] Biella: This brings about unintended consequences. Even in circumstances where there are no threats, which are completely safe and secure, the retraining of the brain to be alert and observant is a habit which the brain does not let go of easily. It’s a benefit which has many side benefits besides pure physical safety and security.
By implication, once one embarks on the path of safety and security, everything, absolutely everything, becomes pertinent towards that end. Being more aware of health, allows us to live longer for instance. Safety and security is ultimately about staying alive. By Implication, which the brain is so magnificently genius at, health becomes a safety and security issue.
[8:37:16 AM] Biella: Likewise with spirituality, religion, philosophy, psychology. Anything which affects the self, and its survival, health, and well-being falls under the extended concern of safety and security. Once safety and security are set as high premiums, as imperatives, and there is the corresponding emotional energy to convert a general desire into an imperative Intent, then everything is affected.
[8:40:17 AM] Biella: The brilliant and genius 3D spreadsheet brian now takes everything into account and calculates it according to this particular parameter. This perspective and this goal. This is the thing with the brain, with those spreadsheets calculations and the summaries, they are always in relation to what the individual in the overall has deemed to be vital and important, and thus of particular interest.
[8:45:55 AM] Biella: Thus our prime interests and motivations affect much. Our prime motivations and interests are not necessarily those we list on our personal CV. Those are the ones we merely think are so. The ones which truly and really are our interests and motivations are the ones which actually generate energy, consume energy, which matter and are important to us. The ones that actually result in action of some kind. Even if that action is simply being on the lookout. And it is to these the results and summations, predictions and prognostications, anticipations and extrapolations, and ultimately, Expectations and Emphases, of the 3D spreadsheet brain are directed.
[8:48:56 AM] Biella: But the brain is not singularly motivated. Other motivations come into the picture. I will stick with my hypothetical case and add in common motivations to illustrate the point. Ego, status, self-importance, approval, acceptance, confidence, etc., these are all common goals. They affect individuals in vastly different degrees, relative usually to their degree of adoption and relative importance.
[8:56:34 AM] Biella: The Aspects inside us utilize these to varying degrees as well. One Aspect in particular. It completely over-identifies with these, and we commonly call it the ego. It’s an Aspect which is almost exclusively dedicated to these as goals. For the ego, these are its very reasons for existence. But the ego Aspect of us is a tricky beast. Because inherent in its construction and design and its very beingness is the factor of “being right.” This is one of its prime directives. It’s how status and acclaim and approval etc are generated. Much the same applies to “knowing things.”
The problem is that all of this ofc turns the ego Aspect into a dictator. The ego Aspect comes to believe its own directives and thus believes it “should” be the “leader” of all of the Aspects of the self, and of the entire Self. It forgets it’s merely an Aspect and it attempts to take over. This is the battle we see in many people.
[9:00:44 AM] Biella: A massively complicating factor is when Survival of some kind is adopted as an imperative. When strong feelings and motivations and thus strong emotions and powerful energies are converted into Intent. There is ofc an inherent Intent to survive. But it can be escalated into, in extremes, a desperation, and obsession, a concern and stress. This of course happens when there is an over-emphasis on the survival aspect of Living. And when the point of survival is forgotten, which is _Living._
[9:04:13 AM] Biella: What is the point of surviving if Living is always going to be stressful? It’s why most people Make Peace with some degree of risk. It’s somewhat impossible to eliminate _all_ risk. The more risk we attempt to eliminate to higher the amounts of effort required. Most people find an acceptable level where the efforts made lead to an acceptable level of minimal risk.
[9:09:02 AM] Biella: But if risk and threat have been set at a level where only zero risk and threat is acceptable, it’s going to make for a miserable individual. Because ofc this is unlikely to be attained. In this life anyway. It’s not in itself an unworthy goal, it’s the ultimate goal of our DNA, but it’s precisely how we go about it that matters. To achieve that ultimate goal and be suffering and stressing all the time in achieving it does not have to be so. We can pursue that goal and have fun and enjoy the pursuit of that goal _without_ sacrificing anything to risk and threat.
[9:12:16 AM] Biella: It all lies in the Angle of Approach. If we are coming at risk and threat out of fear, then it’s a rush and a stress to eliminate them and to secure their non-existence. It becomes all about fear reduction. The individual’s state of existence thus generally becomes simply a fluctuation of the _degree_ of fear. No fear being their goal.
[9:16:09 AM] Biella: But no fear is not the same as Joy, as delight, as bliss, or wonder, or awe, or any of the other myriad of superlative positive experiences there are. The absence of a negative is not a positive. It’s merely nothing. And thus, if the goal is the absence of a negative, achieving that goal will leave one empty. For many this is a serious problem. Because emptiness is typically a worse experience. “better something than nothing” is a common belief in such cases.
[9:18:23 AM] Biella: To connect back to our Safety and Security Paradigm, if those are the predominant goals, and there aren’t goals of Positivity which supersede those, then the individual can be on a path to nowhere. Safety and security are of course worthy goals, but they need to be _subservient_ to the Positive Goals of the individual.
[9:19:05 AM] Biella: And this is particularly important when it comes to the Internal Aspects. Particularly ego.
If the Ego Aspect has safety and security, thus survival, as one of its Imperatives, this can lead to severe problems for the overall psychology and well-being of an individual. Now the already inherent tendencies of ego to “leadership” become converted into flat out dictatorship. The Ego Aspect now does everything it can to ensure its own survival. The actual survival and well-being of the individual becomes a secondary objective, or an objective that’s scarcely considered. Only when it’s directly pertinent to the survival of the Ego Aspect is it even considered. Maintaining its own Primacy becomes the imperative concern of an Ego Aspect which has survival and security via fear avoidance added to its major directives.
[9:24:54 AM] Z: Interesting.
[9:25:34 AM] Biella: Now to tie it all together. Awareness, safety, and security, the Ego Aspect, and how these all relate to threat and risk….
[9:25:53 AM] Biella: [Cool, coming to the end now. 🙂 ]
When it comes to Awareness, and particularly to what is held in conscious awareness, or what we are experiencing primarily, the ego Aspect is a chief determinant of what we feel and of our moods and attitudes, because ofc it likes to be center-stage in everything. But, the ego Aspect is only an Aspect. It is NOT the Self. No matter how much it tries to convince us otherwise. The ego Aspect is not the 3D Spreadsheet Aspect of our brain for instance.
[9:29:50 AM] Z: Yeh.
[9:32:23 AM] Biella: It gets reports from that spreadsheet just as the rest of the Self does. And just like any dictator, it uses and discards and suppresses what it doesn’t want or like. Particularly that which is extremely threatening to the ego Aspect itself. What is threatening to its primacy, but not necessarily threatening to the individual as a whole, either psychologically or physically.
[9:33:14 AM] Biella: Where does this particularly apply and come into play? With Awareness?
When the individual comes into contact with Awareness of _More?_
As children we are cozy and feel safe, (generally) because we are not yet aware of the More of the world. As we mature, we become aware of more and more More. ( 😀 ) How we deal with that More determines our stress and anxiety levels, our feelings of competence and confidence.
But there is more to the More than safety and security. Much More.
[9:38:57 AM] Z: Ok
[9:40:46 AM] Biella: There’s the vastness and abundance of the Positive More. Ofc this gets diminished in Perception if the brain is trained, via Emphasis, to primarily perceive life in terms of threat and risk. But the focus here is not on Emphasis and de-emphasis, as critical as those two are for determining how the brain actually functions, it’s on how Awareness impacts the ego Aspect in other ways.
[9:52:41 AM] Biella: The ego Aspect is threatened by other things. Physical threats and risks are not that much of a priority to it. Those affect the host and are thus only indirectly of importance. What then does affect the ego Aspect?
It’s threatened by “being wrong.” It’s threatened by “not knowing.” It’s threatened by ignorance, by being relatively less informed and knowledgeable. This Relativity is a crucial and critical matter. To the ego Aspect, like any dictator, it’s not about actual competence, it’s about dominance. It doesn’t care if it actually provides Value or not, just that it is Relatively dominant. The ego Aspect is quite content to be a tiny fish in a minuscule pond, especially when it knows it can’t compete in a bigger pond.
This is how the ego deals with, what to the ego Aspect, is the most awful of Awful Truths: that it will not likely ever be a true big fish. Those don’t really exist in the regular world anyway. When one starts to swim in those waters then ofc it’s pointless as the biggest of big fish, gods, come into play, and then the ego Aspect realizes it can’t compete. Unless it falls into madness ofc, which happens when the ego Aspect comes to actually achieve its aims of total dominance of the Self.
But to the regular ego Aspect, in its minuscule pond, it is typically content with this illusion of superiority. As long as it feels that it is more or less in control, and more or less dominant within that pond it is relatively content. Not happy, but not threatened either. It is thus typically manageable within the Self.
[9:54:24 AM] Biella: But that minuscule pond is ofc not really a pond. It is in actuality a drop. A drop within the ocean of life. As such, there is intersection with the larger ocean, and with Implication.
As life progresses, there’s random interaction. A whale swims by in such a way that its shadow falls over that drop. Normally the whale would not even be noticed, because it is completely outside of the sphere of perception of the drop. But the effect of its shadow inside the drop is noticeable.
This is where we connect back to the 3d Spreadsheet Brain and its incredible and fantastic ability to calculate Implication. The spreadsheet is able to infer the whale from that temporary darkness within the drop. Now typically, the ego Aspect knows that it is within a drop, but its assumption, its choice of assumption, is that the rest of the ocean is merely many more drops like itself. Yes, some may merge together to make large drops, but those are just drops where dominance is more of a hassle. The rest of the ocean is therefore perceived as fundamentally similar.
[10:07:12 AM] Biella: But the potential Implication inherent if a whale’s existence is radically different… To the ego Aspect, it now means its entire being is potentially a lie. It potentially could, by Implication, be a complete nothing as a fish. This to the dictator ego is a report that has to be quashed in the most severe manner possible. And this is typically what the ego-self does when it comes into contact with the Implications of Awareness of this nature. Or even if it so happens that it is a direct experience.
[10:12:58 AM] Z: I’m not threatened by ignorance. Ignorance is a natural state, that precedes knowledge.
Everyone is ignorant of something, e.g. particle physics or skiing.
[10:14:00 AM] Biella: However, the ego Aspect forgets, and doesn’t want to know that it is but a part of the whole Self. A relative tiny part as it turns out. A part which the Overall Self tolerates because, like all the Aspects, the ego Aspect has its uses. one of them being motivation. The ego Aspect gets us off our arses in many instances in which we would not otherwise bother. The benefits are indirect.
For instance when the ego is motivated to do some research on a point, where it was potentially wrong. Research always enhances Awareness, but there are no direct and immediate benefits to it in many cases. And it takes time and effort. Thus when the ego Aspect is motivated for its silly reasons, there are other benefits which come along with the particular benefit and goal of the ego. When we research something particular, it’s seldom we travel a path that has that point and that point alone on it. The Overall Self absorbs all of the other information and knowledge acquired on that path. Thus the ego is helpful in this way. It’s but one example of why the ego Aspect is tolerated and how it has real use.
[10:14:14 AM] Z: Agree re being wrong etc.
What does the whale represent?
[10:16:38 AM] Biella: The ego Aspect is not threatened by ignorance directly. It’s the Implications of ignorance and how those apply to the ego Aspect and its dominance of the drop. It’s all relative. Not absolute. Nothing matters to the ego Aspect except maintaining its dominance. Whether this is as “leader” or dictator. It’s just a matter of degree.
[10:17:17 AM] Z: Oh no, many ppl I have encountered are quite threatened by ignorance.
Bcos they need to feel more clever than others.
[10:23:21 AM] Biella: Yes and no. This is an instance where the treat is not necessarily direct. It can be, but not necessarily so. I am endeavouring to show, that threat is often indirect. It very very much depends on Context. And that Context is determined by the particular goals and motivations. Yes, Ignorance can be a very large threat. But my point is that it is a threat to the ego Aspect not in itself directly. It can be ok with knowing that it is Actually ignorant, as long as its relative superiority of knowing is not in jeopardy. To the ego Aspect, it merely has to be the least ignorant inside its drop to be satisfied of its goals of superiority. For the ego Aspect it’s always _relative_ not absolute.
This is how I mean that ignorance is not in and of itself a threat. It all depends on how it comes to bear in the particulars of the pond.
[10:31:17 AM] Biella: That shadow though is a problem. Because the ego Aspect knows that all inside the drop experienced it. And it knows that all Aspects of the Self, and the Self as a whole have access to the results of the spreadsheet reports. The only things which prevent the other Aspects and the Overall Self from connecting the shadow to the whale is Attention. The ego Aspect typically is the one in charge of Attention direction. Conscious Attention anyway. And redirection of Attention is one way in which the ego Aspect suppresses those reports from the spreadsheet which it sees are severely threatening. The whale, to the ego Aspect, is not just threatening, it’s overwhelming.
How can the ego Aspect justify its superiority within the drop if the awareness of the whale becomes common knowledge within the drop? It cannot. The ego Aspect will become redundant instantly. It will be so tiny that, to it, it will be useless. The ego Aspect ofc operates on much false logic, and that is a major problem with it, and for it.
The whale represents _perceived_ superiority, Particularly, superiority that by _comparison_ diminishes the ego. The whale also represents substantial _Difference._ Which through the distorted logic of the ego Aspect can be perceived as threat. The whale is only a threat to the ego Aspect. To the rest of the self it is a boon, or simply difference.
[10:42:59 AM] Biella: There is much in life that’s not perceived directly, but is known via Implication. Implication is an incredibly powerful force in our lives. We are all geniuses at Implication, without even realizing it. At issue is the relationship between Implication and Awareness. This is severely affected by experience and circumstance. By how often we experience the shadows of whales. And by how much we even notice when we do.
What’s at issue, is Self-Perception. Using the ego Aspect as an example is useful, since it’s so primarily involved. But it’s the entire Self-Perception that’s involved. The whale could be a threat and risk directly affecting our safety and security. A threat out there, that should it come our way, now, by Implication, we are completely powerless to deal with. Threats to Self-Perception come in many forms.
Self-Perception relates directly to our comfort and happiness. It’s intimately connected to feeling in charge of our lives and circumstances. To being able to competently deal with what’s at hand. But, when we experience those shadows, and suddenly by Implication the world is severely more complex, complicated, larger, and by implication, beyond our abilities to deal with easily, adequately or at all, this is threatening.
It’s not necessarily the larger world that’s the problem, but our Self-Perception of how we will, or could, Deal with it that leads to the problems.
[10:51:37 AM] Biella: When we thus encounter those shadows and by Implication they reveal how we have been perceiving ourselves is no longer adequate for dealing with what’s out there, it’s a major problem. What are the options?
We can ignore the potential reality as merely a possibility. Or complete denial. We can pretend we’re more than we really are. This at least maintains the illusion within the drop. If we’re still relatively superior within our drop, we’re ok. Well more or less. It at least creates some feelings of comfort and security and competence and relative superiority which tide us over. All of this is ofc a problem. And it is not because of the inherent deception of it. That also. But it’s because the goals themselves are defective. Those are ego Aspect goals which the ego has sold to the rest of the Self as being actual, real, valuable, and important goals. But ofc they are _not_ necessarily so. In some selected and particular Contexts, yes, they can be and are Appropriate, but certainly not as Overall Goals.
The ego Aspect’s goals and beliefs are thus severely corrupting factors. Because the ego Aspect is so bent on superiority, it is inherent in its make-up, it just assumes that what is good for it is good for everything and everyone else. Thus it constantly attempts to foist its goals and motivations onto the rest of the Self.
[10:56:34 AM] Biella: So Self-Perception is a vital aspect of internal peace and happiness. Awareness though, is a complicating factor. As we become more and more Aware, our Self-Perception is severely affected. The more Aware we become, the smaller we become relatively. This is ofc not a problem, unless it’s believed to be so. If we ascribe being small with a problem, that we have a problem with our ever-increasing Awareness. If we have adopted, usually inadvertently, the ego Aspects premium on relative size, then Awareness becomes a real and direct threat. If we see being small as undesirable and negative and a Self-Perception we thus don’t like and want, then our ever-expanding Awareness becomes a major problem. And we have to shut it down or curtail it.
[10:59:53 AM] Biella: But ofc if we love exploring, if we love roaming, if we love abundance, if we don’t care a whit about our size, we are minuscule no matter what anyway, then the more and More of what our Awareness brings us is simply more and more bounty. We are in heaven thus with all the More which constantly comes our way. It’s no longer overwhelming, but a gift.
It all depends on the Angle of Perception. It all depends thus on our Perspectives. Why it’s so Imperative to learn to Perspective-Shift.
[11:20:57 AM] Biella: We can Leverage the extended Awareness from being a threat to being a boon. Let’s take the example of physical threat. When we become Aware of more ways for instance in which we can be at risk, along with that Awareness is also the seeds of how we can potentially deal with those risks. We thus now have more information to work with. Our options have increased. Ofc in many cases like this remaining ignorant has advantages because when we didn’t know, we didn’t see the need to take precautions and the necessity for effort in that regard. And in some cases of physical risk, there is a limit to the preparations we can make.
It’s in precisely these instances that the expression. “Where ignorance is bliss, ’tis folly to be wise,” comes into play and has some merit. But that ofc is not the reality we do experience. And to deliberately maintain ignorance is ofc a choice, but once we know, there’s no going back really. Our only real option is to Make Peace with the reality. To see it as Useful knowing about more risks also allows us to know about more options for dealing with them. And it also allows us to be aware of the statistical probabilities. This is an Awareness we ourselves can add to our Awareness. This is one of the ways we can make Awareness work for us.
When it comes to our example of Awareness of physical risk, the Awareness of the statistical probability of it happening to us being very small, is a huge stress mitigating factor. As long as we maintain it in Awareness ofc, and don’t get consumed by the distorted perspectives which happen when we place our Awareness exclusively on the fear and stress aspects.
We can inadvertently crimp our Awareness, because we don’t want to know the Awful Truths out there. We don’t necessarily go into denial of what we do know. We just don’t want to be Aware of even more Awful Truths. So we don’t actively and aggressively pursue Awareness. This is the state of the world in general it seems to me.
[11:27:30 AM] Biella: But, Awareness and Implication are inextricably linked. And when we do experience those whale shadows, it’s in the end impossible to prevent the implications of making it into Awareness. We are constructed in such a way that we want to know. We want to know because ofc, in the Overall, it’s way way better to know than to not know. No matter how overwhelming or threatening it may be now. The brain and the body, mind and the Self, all of them will find a way for us to know.
And the marvel of it is we try to find gentle ways of making ourselves Aware of what for some reason or another we do not wish to be Aware of. The sad part of this all is that the Reasons why we wish to not know are reasons which are supported and derived from artificial goals. Those goals motivate us. But the problem lies in our Belief that those goals are actually Valid. When ofc they are not.
[11:45:01 AM] Biella: Take the goal of Self-Preservation. It’s only valuable when it is combined with physical self-preservation. Our Self, as in our personality, character, beliefs, attitudes, Awareness and so on, is ofc not a constant thing. It’s changed considerably from when we were babies. It’s only the false logic of ego, that has put a halt on the continued development and change of the Self. It’s only because ego deems its relative spot of comfort and coziness due to its relative dominance, and its passing along of this idea, that we have come to believe that it is good to Self-preserve where we have come to rest.
Small changes which are incrementally acquired and don’t rock the boat are acceptable as they are typically not noticed or not significant enough to fuss over. But to constantly be changing and being a new and different person in essence – how on earth is the ego Aspect going to maintain any sense of dominance and superiority if this is so. Status and image and approval all depend on there actually being something to have status and image and to be approved of.
This does not mean we’re all raging egomaniacs. Not in the least. But even small amounts of insignificant ego Aspect can have this inadvertent consequence.
Thus, when we do make efforts to raise our Awareness, no matter what the original motivation, whether it came from something as sensible as safety and security, or came from ambition, or predilection, it doesn’t matter. It’s consequential. And if we have some form of self-preservation as a goal, psychological self-preservation, then the Implications derived from what we become Aware of, can become extremely threatening, and even, if left undealt with, morph in being perceived as overwhelming. The longer we put off dealing with those implications, the larger the relative difference becomes, and is perceived to be, and the more and more overwhelming even simple Awful Truths become.
The thing with Awful Truths ofc is that they are typically only awful because of Perception and Perspective.
[11:50:49 AM] Biella: They are seldom actually awful, in the psychological realm. It’s the conflation with physical awfulness which leads to many perceptual inaccuracies. And thus unnecessary problems. Once we realize that the increased Awareness can be utilized as a boon, with the appropriate Leverage we can employ via psychological techniques such as Perspective-Shifting, Selective-Emphasis and De-emphasis, Mood-Management and so on, it greatly reduces and pretty much eliminates the Awful Part of Awful Truths. They simply become additional Awareness, which we can use and employ as Appropriate.
[11:56:14 AM] Biella: The crux and pertinence of all of this lies in Change. In the ability to be able to Change, through Choice. Or more accurately, to be able to adapt and thus change, as Appropriate. Ofc, it’s only when we put a premium of some sort in maintaining where we are at psychologically, when we are reluctant to adapt and change and to deal with what we have become Aware of, that problems arise. If we aren’t locked into Self-preservation of a particular Way-of-Being, or psychological formulation and conception of ourselves, then we can adapt and react, respond and flow as needed, and as Appropriate. Without any stress.
[12:08:57 PM] Biella: It is rigidity of Self that’s the problem, when we cling to the idea of ourselves we have created, when we perceive moving away from it is disadvantageous. It’s when we perceive giving up the coziness and comforts and other benefits, (such as relative superiority benefits the ego Aspect deems so crucial) that we run into problems and get blocked from changing and adapting as circumstances deem Appropriate.
This all leads to the overarching issue of Trust. It’s difficult to Trust in the Unknown. Having a fluid and flexible self is more difficult to Trust in than a fixed and known Self. But that is ofc a misperception. And it’s also a majorly flawed belief and perception.
Trust in what we know, which is in essence trusting our direct experiences, is a trust in facts, in the static, and it is a trust of the past as a guide. It is a trust on specifics, on detail, on information.
What this kind of trust and Perspective of Self is Not, is a Trust in capability based on the Ability to be Adaptive. It is not a Trust based on our ability to be flexible, fluid, creative, responsive, and thus ultimately to be Appropriate to the new. Trusting the rigid self is thus a very very limited trust. It pertains to the known. Or to what is little different to the known and to that with which we have become familiar and comfortable and feel we can deal with.
[12:22:40 PM] Biella: It is trust based on specific and detailed awareness rather than Trust derived from our Ability to Abstract.
Adaptability, fluidity, and flexibility all rely on the transference of experience and ability and competence etc, from one situation to another. And in order to do that we have to use Abstract Conception. This is ofc not some vague and difficult thing. We do it automatically when we use language. Pretty much everything we perceive we are able to know what it is because of abstraction. It is what language really is. Chair, car tree, etc, all vary tremendously from individual instance to instance, but we can recognize them as such due to our innate ability to abstract. We simply have to learn to Deliberately employ this mechanism.
When we use this ability to transfer our competence, then it’s simple to Trust ourselves. All we really need to do is Trust that we can. Trust we can Adapt. Trust we can be flexible. And above all, Trust we can Figure It Out. And Trust ourselves to let go of rigidity. Trust we don’t need to have clarity from the start in order to get some measure of clarity at the end.
Trust ourselves when we do not immediately know. Trust that a bit of walking in the dark will lead us to the light switch, or that it will gradually become clear as we proceed. All we need to do is Trust that our eyes will adjust to the dark if given the chance. Trust thus that a bit of Persistence and Determination goes a long way. Particularly if we add some Adamance to the mix.
[12:27:08 PM] Biella: If we Trust that things do not always have to be precise and exactly known, if we Trust that we will get there, if we are Patient, if we learn to become OK with not-knowing right away, if we learn to become Ok with the Implications of this, especially as it pertains to the ego Aspect, then it greatly enhances our ability to Adapt. And thus we significantly enhance our ability to be competent and to Change as needed and as Appropriate, which is pretty much all of the time.
When we consider when it is that we are stressed, it’s inevitably because we have not Appropriately adjusted and adapted to the situation. Ofc this Appropriateness of Adaption and adjustment sometimes means we take less action and sometimes more. Sometimes we simply go along with whatever, sometimes we take the lead and initiate. It all depends.
[12:37:04 PM] Biella: It all depends on our Ability to perceive what is Appropriate. For this Awareness is ofc a vital tool. Appropriateness is not an absolute. It’s always relative. Appropriateness is determined by what our goals and motivations are. By what we wish to accomplish and by what the Context is. And there can be many Contexts which apply to any particular situation or circumstance. What can be Appropriate in one context might not be Appropriate in another.
But it’s not really difficult to determine Appropriateness. All we really have to do is bring it into Awareness. We do so innately. But when we do so deliberately, we add to the mix those Contexts which are not immediate. And those can make a huge difference.
Larger Context added to immediate Context makes a huge difference. For instance, when we are irritated. In the immediate context it might seem Appropriate to feel irritated, after all the thing that irritated us was irritating. But in a delicate negotiation of Diplomacy or with a boss or some such, experiencing the irritation could result in derailing the entire situation and affecting our larger context goals. Thus is the larger context, not feeling and reacting to the source of irritation is Appropriate. It then ofc becomes a choice of what we Value more.
The focus here is on Adaptability, and change. When we consider larger Contexts, it’s much much easier to adapt and change, as we then realize the Huge values and Usefulness typically involved.
[12:41:09 PM] Biella: Much of Change and Adaptability depends on what we’re prepared to give up. The payments we are often asked to make. And this brings us full circle with the entire discussion, or Overall Perspective.
When we come to have stick points in terms of what we are not prepared to give up, and when those stick points are artificial, then it severely limits our options. And ofc we can become stuck when faced with the necessity or desirability of Change. If we for instance do not want to give up coziness, this inhibits Change and Adapting.
[12:56:20 PM] Biella: And much of psychological coziness is rooted in our perception of our belief in our World-View. When we believe we “know how the world works,” even if it is more or less, we feel competent and secure. And ofc any experiences we come across which, by implication, bring into Awareness that in fact the World might not work as we believe, then we become threatened.
But sadly this is an unnecessary belief and stress. If we simply shift our belief from knowing and believing and thinking we know how the world works, and accept that whatever we believe is merely temporary, and shift our belief to Trusting ourselves to figure it out as we go along, then life becomes immeasurably simpler.
If we can only learn to say “So what? So what if I don’t know. so what if I am wrong, so what if now suddenly I am a noob again, what does it matter? It is only a relative change.” In the absolute we are ofc always not-knowing and learning and becoming Aware of more and More. But the nature of the situation is that as we know more and more, we become more and more Aware of how much more there is relative to what we ourselves know. So in that sense we become smaller and smaller relatively. But this is simply a matter of us becoming Aware of the immensity of the Universe and life and everything. How can we not be small compared to the immensity of it all. It’s not overwhelming, it is simply what it is. And the smaller we are relatively, the more magnificence and bounty and wonder there is out there for us to access, explore, use, and derive Value from!
[1:08:12 PM] Biella: The only time this can be a stressful issue is if we have distorted our Perspective in some way. This typically happens when we cling to ideas and beliefs about our Self. It’s when we lock ourselves into limiting Self-Definitions that we become threatened with being overwhelmed. Because when we are thus so clearly and definitively defined, we tend to change slowly, if at all. And, in relation to our Awareness of the world, our defined self-definition gets further and further behind. We come to realize that what we have locked ourselves into, and what was awesome and valuable in the small context, is ofc not so in the ever-increasing Context we continually become Aware of. This can be a very stressful situation. Giving up coziness is typically not regarded as fun. But again, it is ofc only Perspective which affects and influences this Perception.
If we shift our Perspective-of-Value from being cozy with clear definitions, to being cozy with a greater range of definitions for instance. Now we are cozy being explorers, as an example, and that means that coziness is easier to leave when needed. This does not mean our actions in life need to change very much at all. We can in fact do the same things. What has simply changed is our Perception-of-Self relative to the world.
In most cases that’s all that’s really needed. Simply Making Peace with the fact that in fact we are not nearly as overwhelmingly dominant and superior as we like to believe we are within our drop of existence goes a long way. When we realize that being part of an ocean is not really a big deal. It in actuality changes our day to day experience of life very little, then it’s no problem to be Aware. Then when the whale’s shadow falls on us we don’t freak out. We have accepted there are whales out there, and typically they pass us by. And if they do happen to swallow us, well then that’s our fate and lot and when that happens we will then see what is to do be done.
[1:18:57 PM] Biella: Until then we have the choice on Making-The-Best-Of-It, or not. We can stress and suffer, or not. It’s our Choice. But sadly many of these stresses are self-induced, simply because we are not prepared to give up on our cherished beliefs and entrenched self-definitions. It’s thus the inability to Change and Adapt that’s the real source of our stress. Typically we’re reluctant to Change and Adapt because we’ve come to perceive a largeness of some kind which makes us believe Changing and Adapting is impossible or pointless. How can a little fishy become a Whale??
Well how did an embryo become a person? It happens. Just because we do not know how, doesn’t mean it can’t. All it means is that we don’t know how. Yet. When we factor in Awareness of things like Exponential Change, well, then that makes taking on the seemingly impossible a lot lot easier and plausible.
Which brings us back to Trust. When our Trust is shifted to our Ability to change and adapt, to being flexible and fluid, to being Appropriate to the circumstances we find ourselves in, then dealing with what we have become Aware of and what seems like an impossible task, becomes something we _can_ do. If we had had the awareness as an embryo of the task of becoming a person, then we might have believed it to be impossible also. And overwhelming. It’s an instance of where ignorance is indeed beneficial.
[1:28:22 PM] Z: Just finished now 🙂
[1:29:21 PM] Biella: But the development of the embryo, baby, and child are influenced by ever-decreasing factors outside of its choice. As we grow and develop, as we move more and more towards independence, we become Aware of Independence itself, and of its desirability. And this means at some point we have to start to deliberately Choose our own Path. This in turn means when it comes to facing our future growth, from the tiny fishy to the relative vastness of the whale, then at some point this means that we are going to have to embark on this journey with Awareness of the goal. And of its huge relative difference to where we are at. But ofc, we simply have to use our Awareness of where we are now relative to where we have been, to reduce the impossibility of it all. And to use the Awareness that simply because we can’t see how, and that it seems impossible, means nothing at all. After all, our very existence now, is proof of the impossible we have already achieved. From embryo to person is indeed in many respects an impossibility.
And thus, all we really have to do is Trust. Trust the Process-of-Life. Trust it happened despite us not knowing how it does so exactly. And thus, we have to Trust ourselves. Trust we will develop and change as the forces of nature and life work their magic on us. That is if we do not do anything to inhibit and restrict the natural course of life from unfolding. It’s merely a conceptual conceit and belief to believe becoming an adult is the apex of our lives.
It is but a beginning.
[1:29:42 PM] Biella: Excellent. I have just finished now. 😀 😀 😀
Biella: Haha, I just go where the line of the focus takes me. Where the Pertinence directs me. and to how Relevance dictates. 🙂
Biella: Lol, this is ofc all connected in one way or another, to a greater or lesser degree, and sometimes none at all, to your tsunami dreams. In order to make the points that I do believe are relevant I sometimes need to make supporting points and those need to be supported and so on. So often this brings into the laying out of much which is not directly relevant. But it is needed nonetheless.
[1:48:57 PM] Biella: Mostly, what I am doing is avoiding giving my opinion. I could say all of the above in a few sentences probably. But without substantiation, especially when the conclusion is far removed from the substantiation, they are just meaningless disconnected opinions, without much Use and Value.
When it comes to the Sharing of Perspectives of this nature, much is going to depend on some back and forth. There is inevitably going to be some measure of communication where there is not clear overlap of Understanding due to word usage, associations, and interpretations etc. It’s seldom as clear cut as: I agree, or not. Usually when we don’t agree there’s a large measure of misunderstanding that’s a significant factor. In order to be sure, we have to be sure we know what’s actually meant, and not what we _believe_ is meant. And the only way to be sure, the only way we can really agree or disagree is if we have Verified what we believe to be our understanding. Until then, it is merely a belief that we understand what another means.
This is for me a New Nobility thing since TakeAways, the way they use them, are not particularly practical in most usual circumstances. That doesn’t mean we can’t change our circumstances, particularly who and how we choose to interact and communicate and understand. 🙂 <3
If there,s something you disagree with or are unclear about, I am keen to Hear, because typically it involves miscommunication of some sort. When we Trust the Intent of the other to be Impeccable, then, we default to seeking more Awareness and Understanding before we formulate any opinions and perceptions and perspectives about what we encounter and what’s Shared. We look to thus Understand, and once we connect to the incredible Joys and Value of Capital U Understanding, which we acquire via our incredible receptivity founded on that Capital T Trust which we’ve built on our Awareness of all that’s involved, then our Path is always a Path-To-More.
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