“I want smart friends, what’s a good way to do that?”
Dear Potential Friend, I hear you. But I feel your search focus is misplaced on “smartness.” In actuality it matters little. I have had fantastic conversations and interactions, months and weeks long, or more, with individuals that might not be regarded as smart. Certainly not by themselves. Yet these interactions were phenomenal, sustaining, fulfilling, enlivening, profound. Why? Many factors. None related to smart.
A willingness to engage, this is primary. A willingness to explore, to learn, to discover. A desire to figure it out. Whatever “it” happens to be. A lack of fixedness. A freedom to pursue the topic wherever it leads, even though often there might be very definite goals and desires. An intention to Resolve, an openness to find Solution, wherever Solution is, however it is. These are imperative.
Honesty and Integrity. How critical are these? I don’t care how smart you are, without these we will waste our time. When honesty and Integrity are inviolate, typically they resolve side distractions such as pettiness and ego. How can we be egotistical when we are Honest?
Interactions bedevilled by the Comparative Mindset are sadly doomed to collapse.
There is More… we might think those qualities are enough, but they aren’t. For me, in these marvellous interactions I have been in, am in, Persistence and Determination are key. The ability to continue, despite the path sometimes seeming dark. This is precious. Who knows where we will go? Not I. It is not up to me. I am not particularly smart. I merely Make an Effort. It is up to the Path, the subject matter, the Intent, the construction of the knowledge we tackle. The Willingness-To-Learn, to learn together, this is the issue.
The Magic in these Interactions is the Creation of New Truths, new Awarenesses, new Understandings, new Insights, new Discernments. An incredible thrill. To reformulate something I already know is excellent, to refine what I use, is marvellous, to hone what I value is superb, to extend what is known is fantastic, but none of these come close to the rapture of Creating and Building a NEW TRUTH.
Once we do this that first time, the Implications via Extrapolation open up the Universe. If we can create one New Truth, we can create More! We now can re-create our entire Being.
What do we need for this? Simply: Good Character. Willingness. Intent. Desire. Honesty. Integrity. The Super Powers of Patience and Tolerance. The Humility of Sensibility. The Sobriety of Impeccability. We might even discover the bonuses of Ethics and Nobleness. But smarts, nah, overrated.
Sadly, typically, too much assumption, presumption, pre-conceived ideas, arrogance, intolerance, impatience etc. are entangled with smart. Of course intelligence has value, but as a single criteria, it does poorly as a selection mechanism. Too much baggage. Give me Earnest Persistence any day. That refusal to quit, that is huge. The desire for Goodness and Self-Improvement, combined with a willingness to face and deal with The Awful Truths of Self, this is essential.
The Primacy of Useful-Knowing, over all else, is my goal. The refusal to leave a Mystery-of-Knowledge unresolved, that is invaluable. The Pursuit of real and actual Value, incomparable. Earnest Goodness, what a marvel and Gift of nature! This is what I search for. This is the basis of my Community. This is what I wish to be in Communion with.
“Sharing has a Sweetness and Wonder all it’s own.” — Sharing… the Heart of the Matter. If this appeals to you, any of you out there, share earnestly, and see where it goes. Inevitably, from experience, “Where it begins is not where it ends.”
We will Dance-With-Life.
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